Are You Raising a Rebellious Child? Here Is What You Can Do

Most parents never thought they will be raising a rebellious child. At no time during the planning and pregnancy process they thought they will have to be dealing with a child who is very disobedient. They all thought and dreamt about giving birth to a child that would be model child. Imagine their surprise when their child becomes very rebellious.

The thing is, parents always wants the best for our children and so our children grow it us our pleasure to teach them things that would make us proud. We have great plans for them and want them to grow up and being the best they can be. We want them to be smart and kind. We want them to be likeable, respectful of others, successful. Christian parents want will teach them about their faith and hope they will share it and walk with God, we want them to grow spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally.

However, for many parents, this dream is never realized as their children are very rebellious.  Our loveable infants are now teenage terrors and not at all following the “game plan” we had in our mind. How did this happened? Where did we go wrong? Who is to be blamed? The school system? Hollywood? Our culture? Could we have done things that have resulted in us raising a rebellious child?

Here are some ways you may have unintentionally raised a rebellious child, and if you are new parent there are lessons you can learn from these.

You are their friend, not their parent. As much as it is important to be your child friend, to be someone your child can talk to about everything without fear, many parents make the mistake of being too much of a friend and not a parent and so trading down the authority they have been given. As parents you must set standards and rules for your children to follow. The Bible tell us to grow up a child in the way he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6), this is because foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child (Proverbs 22:15), and so they will want to do their own thing. Let your child know that even though you are their friend, you are also their parent and so discipline must be enforce and you must guide the child in the way he should go.

You do no discipline your child. I know that you love your child very much, but there must be discipline in your home. If there is no order or if there is no discipline then you will have disorder and your child will grow up without any respect for authority or how to behave in public. The Bible says “Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.” Proverbs 13:24 (NIV) Whenever your child does something that is wrong, you MUST correct the child. Importantly, this must be started very early, not when your child is a teenager then your trying to discipline your child, it doesn’t work like that. Discipline should start from the child is one year old. Many parents will only threaten the child, that doesn’t work either as the child will figure after a while that he or she will not be punish when they does something wrong so they will continue to misbehave. Swift discipline must follow your threat if you do not want your child to see you as a joke.

You over-indulge them. I am sure you do not need me to elaborate on this, but if you is giving your child everything he or she wants and when they want it. Of course we want to give our children things for their enjoyment, but there is a thing call ‘giving too much’ and giving too early. It becomes inappropriate when your children can no longer handle the blessing and so it becomes a curse. How can you tell if they have become over-indulged?

• They are no longer grateful for what they receive.
• They have developed an “entitled” attitude.
• When you say “NO” (to test their heart) their reaction is a tantrum, manifested in a number of different ways; crying, whining, begging, complaining, anger or violence